Mellyricks Blog: June 2015

I've been wanting to write a blog about this for the longest time. Its a topic that I've struggled to understand why other people think its okay to be rude? I have been raised to keep quiet if I have nothing nice to say, especially telling the person upfront, there's a difference between been taklesa and having no manners all. Sorry to say but this is a thing our filipino culture has been struggling with and I wish to change.

Last week it happened a few times to me, I walked into a spa, where I clearly am paying and did not deserve to be greeted in such a way. The lady said to me right when she saw me "ang taba mo!" Automatically my instinct was to answer back, but I just smiled and said "syempre" sarcastically. Another time I was in Megamall with kiera and a lady came up to me and said that un yaya ng anak niya is a fan, kung pwede daw pa picture, syempre, sabi ko okay lang, so lumapit un yaya to me, I smiled at her and said hi, then she said to me right away "ay tumaba ka talaga noh" Di ko nalang pinansin and smiled for the photo, after I said thank you and she looked at me head to toe and she said once again "tumaba ka talaga noh" Excuse me naman diba? Close ba kami? is that a way to greet someone you've met for the first time? Putok fuse ako and i said "ikaw din ate" These kind of things happen to me everyday, I do not understand bakit yan ang unang bungad ng tao sayo, ayyy pumayat ka or ay tumaba ka? Where are your manners? You can say hello, or how are you? I'm pretty sure if ako gumawa niyan madami magagalit sakin, sabi nga nila "treat others like you would like to be treated."

Pictures were taken during ASAP, during this time I was told mataba or tumataba nako and was asked to diet..

For the past 4 years weight has been a struggle for me, I've eaten the same things I have been eating kahit nun payat ako, but somehow my weight has gotten the best of me. I have spent so much money on machines and diets that haven't worked. Ive spent hour in the gym and could hardly walk but still I wasn't losing weight. Imagine nun payat ako pinapakain ako para tumaba, I wasn't allowed to leave the dinner table unless I finished my food and even sa taping ko, hindi mag reresume until I eat all my food. Pag pay at gusto patabain, pay mataba gusto papaya tin? pay kulot gusto straight, pay straight gusto kulot, away! This world! can we be accepted for who we really are?

Did it ever cross peoples minds that I just had a baby 5 months ago and I have lost 25lbs? But no one acknowledges this, all i hear is she's fat? Sayang ka naman? Bakit nagging sayang? This no longer bother me being called fat, but what bothers me is the manners of the people around us, they way others treat you, with no respect. Why do we have to be this way towards others? Naiisip ba ng bang tao un sinasabi nila before they say something? Or di na sila nag iisip at all, para lang may masabi sila? I really don't understand this matter. In my case they say I'm a public figure and people have the right to judge me. I sa NO! You do not, just like I am not allowed to say anything bad about you. I pray one day people will boost each other up instead of bringing each other down. Bullying never got anyone anywhere.

Never naman ako un pinakapayat, I never wanted to be the skinny one, I was okay with how I was. Each and every person is different, and for me I was happy with myself, but with all the things I heard, and what people were telling me on a day to day basis, I actually started to believe I was fat, and it took a toll on me, I started to eat more, I started to be depressed about my weight, but when I look back at photos of me before, I can say I wasn't Fat, why would people be so cruel, I wasn't skinny but i was FAT. Certain shows turned me down because of it, other shows tinaggal ako, and also endorsements. For me though I dint take it personally, ganun talaga ang industry ng showbiz. although I think setting a good example to the younger generation is more important that our appearances. Words no longer hurt, but peoples actions do.

Let me know yor thoughts on this.

Love,

Mel

BE KIND

Last week we drove to Tali beach. I was so tired, Kiera would sleep a little but after she would refuse to sleep in her carseat so I'd carry her or she's sit on my lap. She can't sit still nowadays, I guess she wants to start crawling and walking soon. So for that 3 hr drive I was exhausted. We got there around 7:30pm and surprised Kiera's ninong because it was his bday and had no idea we were coming.

We settled down, Kiera and I slept early, na-mommy vibes ako soon I was so tired, buti we slept early so that the next day we would have energy to have fun and go swimming a little. It was so cute, she wore this cute butterfly hand-me-down ng pinsan niya, it was adorable, it had a pink tutu on the bikini, how I wish I had a baby bikini when i was a baby, and how i wish I could still wear one now!

She went swimming! OMG it was so funny, she didn't seem to like it very much, well we have to take into consideration that she just woke up from a nap. I though she would enjoy it because she loves taking showers and baths but for some reason she didn't smile much during her short swim.

I was actually planning to take her swimming sooner but good thing i asked my Pedia Dra. Liza Cruz, I had no idea babies were not allowed to swim in pool because of the possible bacteria and the chlorine in the water. Kiera is 4 1/4 months, will turn 5 months on the12th. Pero wabi ni Dra. Cruz with kieras weight and size pinapayagan na niya mag swim si Kiera just need to make sure she washes off well. Being a praning mo i didn't make her swim long , ahha for picture purposes nlng mina, plus, maybe she's appreciate it more when she's older haha